It’s a typical busy holiday season. It’s cold outside. Christmas lights, decorations and wreaths everywhere. Walking into a busy restaurant I look around trying to find a table. My eyes land on the nice older couple above.
They are in their late 70s or early 80s, both wearing fun holiday themed hats. They sit, quietly. She scrolling on her phone. Him just sitting and enjoying the moment, lost in thought. Maybe he’s thinking of what he had for lunch. Maybe he’s thinking about Christmases past and missing someone. Maybe he’s just lost in thought, a mediation of where he’s at in life and where he’s been.
I’m wearing a green Boston Scally cap I bought last year for the holidays. I find a table to sit at and order my lunch. The couple finish their quiet moment and gather their things before leaving the restaurant.
As they pass, the man makes eye contact with me, nods his head and tips his hat to me, one Christmas hat to another. “I like your hat,” he says simply but in a deep authoritarian voice that reminds me of Morgan Freeman narrating The March of the Penguins. I reply with a grin, “I like your style.”
He asks if he can sit down for a moment as he pulls out a chair. Being the mild midwesterner I am, what else but to smile and nod, of course you can. Be my guest.
His name is George and her name is Helen. George and Helen. They are both 80 years old. They are here in Chicago visiting his kids for the holiday. George and Helen have been through some things as he pours forth with their life story. They met in high school, fell in love and married right after high school. He got a job at a local plant and they bought a small 2 room bedroom cottage with a loan from his parents.
They settled in but before they could have kids , he got drafted into the marines during Vietnam. He served in the motor pool overseas with his unit. He never saw live duty and returned home after his initial assignment was up. Helen waited patiently for him staying just with her family and friends as best she could. But she waited.
George returned home to see his wife and partner. But he wasn’t the same. His service had done some things to him. Helen tried to help and make him comfortable and relaxed. George couldn’t relax. It pained him but he got restless and told Helen he had to leave so he could keep moving and keep the things he had seen off his mind. Therapy wasn’t a thing back then.
George and Helen both moved on, met other people and had lives and children of their own. But they both kept the other in the back of their minds. And then one day after each of their partners had died, Helen picked up the phone and called her original love, the love of her life to see how he was doing. “I’m ok but it sure is lonely here. I miss you.”
Ten years later here they are wearing Christmas hats and looking quiet, happy and peaceful.
George says he has to go and stands up pushing the chair in like a gentleman would. He tips his hat to me one more time as do I.
We both wish the other a merry Christmas. I don’t think George needs the well wishes. I think he found what he was looking for all this time.
“We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.”
TS Eliot, Little Gidding